Dear Christine,
So this girl left me a couple of months ago and I can’t get her off my mind. I think about her constantly and she says I make her sick to her stomach. I really think she was the one and I loved her like I’d never been hurt before. I don’t take relationships lightly, but do you have some advice for a wounded romantic? Wounded in Westland
Dear Wounded,
Sounds like you’re hurting really badly. I’m so sorry! However, I’m sure you’ve been hearing from your friends that healing takes time, and that’s the truth. I would encourage you to set aside some time to grieve the end of the relationship, and to do something symbolic, when you are ready, of letting go of her. I believe that there are many loves in a lifetime, and that this one may have been “the One” for this part of your life, but apparently, not forever. Remember what William Blake wrote in his poem:
“He who binds to himself a joy
Does the winged life destroy;
But he who kisses the joy as it files
Lives in eternity’s sun rise.”
Be good to yourself, be grateful for the love you experienced, the joy you kissed as it flew by, and grieve, so that one day, you will be ready to love again. Richard Bach wrote these words of wisdom:
If you love something set it free If it comes back,
It was and always will be yours
If it neve returns,
It was never yours to begin with.