Dear Christine, My ex’s best friend. Recently I have been having dreams of my former partner’s best friend. I am attracted to her….very much so, and if I am correct, she is attracted to me too. Here is the thing, I would like to see her whether it be for a short period of time or longer. How do I go about calling her up out of the blue and say hey! Want to go out some time? Should I go for it, despite the fact that she is my ex’s best friend? Ex’s Best Friend in Farmington
Dear ex’s best friend in Farmington, Here’s an interesting situation! To answer your question, it all depends! There’s no reason NOT to call her and ask her up, as your former partner, is just that, former. You are allowed to call anyone you want. Some thought questions: Are you still friends with your ex? Would she be upset, not care or be supportive if she found out you were dating her best friend? Would she need to hear it from you, rather than in gossip from others? Would the best friend be OK with dating her best friend’s ex? Are they close enough that it would be uncomfortable or damage her friendship? Only she can answer these questions. So, after you’ve thought through the questions about your ex, if you still feel it’s worth a try, go ahead and call her up! If she says “no”, then so be it. Another question answered. If she says “yes”, you get to find out if the two of you click.
Christine C. Cantrell, PhD
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