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Dear Christine, Anxious in Ann Arbor

  • Posted on October 31, 2020 at 12:43 pm

Dear Christine, Do you have any suggestions for helping decrease my anxiety during this election time? I can’t sleep and my doctor had to increase my blood pressure meds. She offered sleeping aids but with my substance abuse issues, I was afraid to go down that path. What can I do to relax and ease this anxiety? I know it’ll be ok if Biden wins, but if he doesn’t, I feel like I’ll really be a mess and I know I’m not alone in these feeling. Thanks, Signed, Anxious is Ann Arbor Dear Anxious, I hear you loud and clear.  A recent report I saw today said that 70% of the American voting public is very anxious about the election on Tues, Nov 3, 2020.  I hear most of my clients echoing your (and my) anxieties.  I feel like I have been holding my breath for 4 years! What I see campaign officials from the Biden campaign say is “if you are anxious, get to work.”  There are things you can still do:  donating money to candidates that you support, contact their local offices to see if you can join in door knocking, phone calling and emailing those few people…

Dear Christine, Overreacting in Oregon

  • Posted on August 2, 2020 at 5:15 pm

Dear Christine, I have a friend that lives in Florida and works at a hospital.  Currently her family from SE MI is visiting her. They have been staying at her house for about a week now.  One of the family members just tested positive for COVID.  Since he tested positive they have NOT self-quarantined.  They have been to restaurants, aquariums, zoos, stores and beaches.  Shouldn’t they all be tested since they are all currently at the same house and self-quarantine? I kind of mentioned something to her and  she said it’s fine.  “The virus is here to stay and we better get used to it.”  And she and her family won’t sit in the house with her son since he is COVID positive.  But they have been around him for over a week. But they won’t get tests. So now her whole family will be travelling back to Michigan this week by plane.  And most likely her sister will go back to her job as an OR nurse and might possibly be COVID positive. Am I overreacting??? Or do ya’ll think this is horribly negligent of the entire family to not be in quarantine and possibly spreading this to dozens…

Dear Christine, Confused in Clawson

  • Posted on July 7, 2020 at 8:39 am

Dear Christine, I’m a single gay man living in Ferndale with 2 gay roommates. During this pandemic, we’ve all been on unemployment income and have been riding it out safely at home. Lots of games, drinking, experimenting with new recipes and zooming with friends. It was fun, for a while. Last weekend, my roommates decided the quarantine was over and they went out partying all over Royal Oak without masks! I have asthma and also type 2 diabetes. When I knew how unsafe they chose to be, I packed a bag and went to my sister’s house. I don’t plan to go back until this is over or they decide to take it seriously. I’m so depressed, alone and my roommates and friends are mad at me. They want me to continue paying my portion of the rent. My sister, however, asked me if I could help her because she’s been struggling financially. I can’t do both! I don’t know what to do. I don’t even think I’ll have a job when this is over and if unemployment runs out, I don’t know what I’ll do. I feel overwhelmed. I don’t even know what my question is. Confused in Clawson…

Dear Christine, Mad in Madison Heights

  • Posted on June 5, 2020 at 6:15 pm

Dear Christine I’ve heard stories of other people being at their wits end with husbands, wives, partners and kids driving them nuts during the shelter in place order My living situation is I like with my husband and his younger brother rents a room in our basement.  Until the virus we all worked different hours so we didn’t see each other a lot. Now we are all home and it is slowly driving me mad!  I won’t even go into the million things that annoy me.  What I need advice on is how to stay sane and stay in my relationship until this is over.  We all work in the restaurant business so we might be the last to get back to work.Signed, Mad in Madison Heights Dear Mad, What you are going through is very, very hard.  It is no comfort, but you have a lot of company these days, all around the world.  My solace in quarantine is that it is spring and we can go outside (mask included) and walk or ride a bike or garden.  When China was in quarantine it was winter and no one was allowed outdoors at all.  Some people live in very…

Dear Christine, Pandemic

  • Posted on March 15, 2020 at 2:47 pm

Pandemic Rev Lynn Ungar What if you thought of it As the Jews consider the Sabbath– The most sacred of times? Cease from travel. Cease from buying and selling. Give up, just for now, On trying to make the world Different than it is. Sing. Pray. Touch only those To whom you commit your life. Center down. And when your body has become still, Reach out with your heart. Know that we are connected in ways that are terrifying and beautiful. (You could hardly deny it now.) Know that our lives Are in one another’s hands. (Surely, that has come clear.) Do not reach out your hands. Reach out your heart. Reach out your words. Reach out all the tendrils Of compassion that move, invisibly, Where we cannot touch.. Promise this world your love– For better or worse, In sickness and in health, So long as we all shall live. The conversation project 1 HANDS Wash them oftenFive Things to Do: 2 ELBOW Cough into it 3 FACE Don’t touch it 4 FEET Stay more than 3ft apart 5 FEEL sick? Stay home Hello GOAL world! Welcome to the COVID-19 era.  We all know the drill.  Wash those hands!  The…

Dear Christine, Terrified in Trenton

  • Posted on March 9, 2020 at 8:28 am

Dear Christine, I am a newly out 40 year old lesbian. I just got divorced and am the mother of two teenagers.  I decided to get out there and it wasn’t hard to find lesbian activities though a little online googling.  So, after finding an “all welcome” pot luck house party, I decided to check it out.  I’m not really blaming the people at the party but no one came and introduced themselves to me or took me under their wing, which is what I was hoping for.  I’m painfully shy and uncomfortable in situations where I don’t know anyone. Other, more outgoing individuals might have introduced themselves or tried to start a conversation.  I snuck out after about a half hour without anyone even noticing. I do want to make friends in the community and right now I have none.  Is there any suggestions you have to for me meet people that won’t terrify me? Signed, Terrified in Trenton Dear Terrified in Trenton, Welcome to the community!  It sounds like you might have social anxiety.  It is not easy trying to meet new people in a community, whether that is a church or a pot luck group or a…

Dear Christine, Frustrated in Ferndale

  • Posted on February 10, 2020 at 9:46 am

Dear Christine, I’ve been confused lately and was wondering if you could maybe help me understand the situation. I have been seeing someone for almost 2 years now. She has not come out of the closet to her parents yet and it’s starting to take a toll. She says she needs time to tell her parents which I completely understand. I just don’t understand why she doesn’t try to introduce me as a friend or a study buddy. I may not be the girliest girl out there but I am even willing to wear a dress and stilettos if it will make her more comfortable. Yet she is not open to this idea at all. Why won’t she sacrifice too? This frustrates us both because it creates pointless arguments. It also gets me insecure because am I not good enough? I just don’t want to be a secret anymore. Am I being too harsh or do I have the right to say these things to her? Please help……Thank you!!! Frustrated in Ferndale Dear Frustrated, I hear you, loud and clear! It’s hard to be out and proud and in love with someone who is either straight, or not yet out! However, you’re not even comparing apples and oranges, but instead apples and cars.…

Dear Christine, A Hot Mess in Madison Heights

  • Posted on December 9, 2019 at 12:01 pm

Dear Christine, I’ve never done this before, I’m sorry if it’s a mess. I feel like I’m a burden to everyone. I try my hardest to do good and stay happy to not put the burden of me on anyone. But I mess things up and make mistakes constantly and all my hard work trying to stay positive about things just falls back down. I just had my baby almost 8 weeks ago and i love him he makes my world spin around. But I’m still not okay. I look at myself and I don’t like what I see. I hate my body. I am constantly in my phone because I try to distract myself while I’m around family and people. I have anxiety with most of everything. I overthink everything.  I have a great boyfriend who’s the father of my baby. But I don’t think he realizes or notices because I try and keep it to myself. We argue about the little things but we always end up fine at the end of the day. There are times I am generally happy and I love it and I forget about everything but it always comes creeping back. I’m just…

Dear Christine, Femme in Franklin

  • Posted on October 23, 2019 at 1:40 pm

Dear Christine, Do I Have Lesbian Repellant? I’m very femme. I couldn’t stop looking girly if I tried and I wouldn’t anyways.. I love my aesthetic of Curled Hair, Pin-Up looks. I have all kinds of “macho” skills but I appear to be a “Straight” gal to other Lesbians. I’ll admit I’m newly Out…. It’s always been nearly impossible to meet women. Even at an all Lesbian event women will ask if I “just broke up with my boyfriend”. Is there some kind of button I should wear? Is Femme really that offensive? I’ve heard that some Lesbians are into it. I would never change this about myself but I’d sure love to learn to Send out the Right Signals. Any suggestions..?? Dear Femme in Franklin Trust me… Femme is not offensive, nor is it a repellent. Speaking as a Butchly type that appreciates the Femme type. I have also seen and known Femmes that like other Femmes when it comes to *those* kinds of interactions. (the really good kind) Personally I also think that as women we are sometimes socialized to be more submissive and/or aren’t used to making the first move… and so oftentimes it can be a…

Dear Christine, Betrayed in Brownstown

  • Posted on October 6, 2019 at 2:18 pm

Dear Christine, I hope it’s okay to ask a question if I’m not a member of the LGBT community. My son is gay and I follow a lot of things going on in the community, and both his father and myself are very involved and supportive of him. The question, however, is about my marriage. I’ve been married to my husband for 21 years. Early in our marriage I discovered he liked to look at porn. I was hurt and jealous because I couldn’t understand why he needed to look at other women when he had me. We’ve always had a healthy marriage and sex life. I’ve discovered recently that he never stopped looking at porn even though many years ago he promised me he would stop. I am concerned he has an addiction. And I’m furious that he never stopped. He thinks I am over-reacting but I’m beyond distraught and unsure if I want to continue our marriage. Is it normal for men to look at porn? Am I being prude? How do I know if he has a serious addiction? Any advice or thoughts you have would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance, Betrayed in Brownstown Dear Betrayed,…