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Dear Christine, Patient in Petoskey

  • Posted on July 15, 2019 at 8:30 am

Dear Christine, She did it again! I emailed you a couple years back about my cheating wife.  It wasn’t easy but I forgave her. That was two years ago. I appreciated your advice to decide to follow my heart and do what I needed to at the time. I just found out she recently cheated again and now has confessed to me that she believes she’s a sex addict. Apparently, she has been meeting both men and women for sex. She swears she wants to get help and stop. I’ve seen stuff like this in movies and on TV shows. Is it really a thing or could she be making excuses? I just don’t know what to do or believe. For now, I’ve asked her to go stay at her sisters house. We have a 25 year marriage that’s been successful except for this. Your thoughts would be appreciated. Signed Patient in Petoskey Dear Patient, I am sorry to hear your latest marital troubles.  Upon your confrontation, your wife admits she has a problem.  What concerns me is her “swearing that she wants to get help and stop.”  Sex addiction is a real thing, using sex and orgasm as a way to…

Dear Christine, Calm in Clawson

  • Posted on July 6, 2019 at 3:10 pm

Dear Christine, I’ve had anxieties and phobias all my life, I don’t like to drive a car, but I still do, like an old lady,  I absolutely hate being a passenger, feeling sure the driver will have an accident. I get horrible anxiety waiting in line to buy groceries. I haven’t been able to fly without serious sedation and don’t like being at parties where there are people I don’t know. Oh, and I carry hand sanitizer everywhere I go. I’m 56 years old and I’ve just learned to live with it since I was about 16.  In the past couple months I’ve slowly realized that I no longer have these fears. I’m not sure when it happened exactly but I’m fine now. I’ve never taken meds either. Have you ever heard of someone who was spontaneously cured from anxiety and phobias? I’m praying it’s permanent. Signed Calm in Clawson Dear Calm, I’m so happy for you to have your anxieties and phobias disappear!  As an adult, that is not a common occurrence, but with children, they often overcome anxieties and phobias as they grow, learn and understand more of how the world works. Harvard Health newsletter has some helpful…

Dear Christine, Wondering in White Lake

  • Posted on July 1, 2019 at 8:18 am

Dear Christine I know this is probably more of a stereotype (partly propagated by “Sex & The City”), but many straight women seem to like having a gay male friend around to talk about clothes and TV drama. If a straight guy were to have a lesbian as a friend, what would likely be their common ground? Wondering in White Lake Dear Wondering, TV sitcoms, and movies, love stereotypes. Remember “Will and Grace”? You had the same alliance between a straight woman and a gay man, sharing an apartment. It does happen, but most people are individual and unique, and don’t fit neatly into stereotypes. Some gay men have the fashion sense (remember “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy”?) and love giving their straight women friends advice on styles, make-up and hair. Other gay men may well have other interests. Perhaps gay men and straight women appreciate similar tastes, interests and hobbies. Certainly, a straight woman would feel safe with a gay man, because he’s never going to hit on her, but just be her friend. He might be more open and talk about his feelings and his gay relationship than many straight men do. But there are plenty of…

Dear Christine, Puzzled in Pontiac

  • Posted on June 5, 2019 at 11:26 am

Dear Christine, I’ve got a problem with my wife. I’m straight, and am married to my wife and we have 3 beautiful children together. I love my wife very much and promised her that I would always love her and take care of her. I take my promises very seriously, especially because she has Borderline Personality Disorder. I have read everything I could find on line, and it is exactly her! I know no one else will take care of her and love her like me, but she says she’s fallen in love with someone else. Get this, it’s a woman! She says she’s not in love with me anymore, and since she’s met this woman, she won’t have sex with me any more. And she acts mean to me, comparing me to this woman, and she gets angry at me all the time, yelling. It’s just not fair! I keep telling her that no one, not even this woman, will ever love her or take care of her as I do. She says she’s going to move in with this woman, but she’s staying with me until tax time. I don’t really like that, but I don’t want to…

Dear Christine, Burned in Berkley

  • Posted on May 27, 2019 at 7:01 am

Dear Christine, Dumped again! I have dated 4 women in the past 2 years and the pattern seems a little too similar to me. Each one of the 4 pursued me. I feel like I tried to go slow and get to know them but they all convinced me that they thought I was the one. I guess I wasn’t because now, for the 4th time, I’ve been hurt. I can only assume that they find me attractive at first and then find something terribly wrong with me. I’ve gone to friends for advise asking them to be honest and tell me what’s wrong with me. They won’t or can’t seem to give me an answer. They don’t think it’s me. The women I’ve dated have all had excuses that didn’t seem to be about me. One said she didn’t like how “out” I was. I guess that is about me. One decided to go back to an ex girlfriend. Another met someone new while we were dating. This last one just quietly faded away slowly without any answer. I need answers to what I’m doing wrong and why someone can date me for 3 to 6 months and then…

Dear Christine, Sad in Saline

  • Posted on May 20, 2019 at 10:48 am

Dear Christine, My sister is pretending to like guys, when she’s a lesbian? I feel really bad. She’s 16 and she’s really popular. Everyone likes her in our school. I never knew she was a lesbian because she’s had so many boyfriends but when I came home early from work once I saw her and her girlfriend on our couch touching each other. She told me she was homosexual but it’s no big deal. Our parents force us to go to church and my dad is a jerk, he always makes fun of this girl who dresses like a guy and I realized it was the same girl she was kissing… I told my dad to stop and she said “why he’s right, dykes go to hell that’s so nasty” and she whispered to me and told me to shut up. I feel bad because I see her sneaking out of our balcony all the time to see her. My dad always makes rude comments but she just laughs at them. I tried talking to her and telling her it’s not good to be in denial and she said “Do you want dad to find out i’m a lesbian and…

Dear Christine, Troubled in Troy

  • Posted on April 29, 2019 at 7:45 am

Dear Christine, what should i do about homophobic co worker? im 21 year old woman and im out to everyone at work, all my co workers have all met my partner Sara, anyway i have people working under me several people in fact and theres this co worker whom im in a higher position but im not in charge of her, she makes fun of my sexuality, at an office party she made horrible remarks to my girlfriend, recently she insulted me and i had enough so i started to shout but i got a pain and chest and couldnt breathe, anyway it was a panic attack because i suffer from anxiety, it made me realise that i must do something, what can i do? Troubled in Troy Dear Troubled, Wow! Since you have anxiety, I’d really recommend that you contact a therapist to work on some cognitive-behavioral techniques to cope with the anxiety, and/or your doctor about getting an anti-anxiety medication for just these situations. I’m sorry you’re going through this at your workplace, but unfortunately, it’s still a common occurrence. Talk to your colleagues about their take on this one mean person, as there’s safety in numbers. Also…

Dear Christine, Tears to Anger, in Ann Arbor

  • Posted on April 22, 2019 at 8:12 am

Dear Christine, I’ve been in a 22+ relationship with my partner and mostly it was a wonderful relationship. The last few years have been tougher for us because of health issues, hysterectomies and deaths in the family. The passion had dissipated quite a bit, but we still always said “I Love You” & “kissed” upon coming or going somewhere, among other normal intimacies that do not involve sex. But, I always felt absolutely certain in my heart that we would grow old together, no matter what -just like our vows to each other when we had our ceremony. Out of the blue, she starts being very angry and picking fights with me. She starts making irrational accusations, and it seemed she was trying very hard to get me angry with her. She succeeded a few times, but only after relentlessly picking at me. Then she hands me a letter telling me that she is no longer “IN–love” with me & ready to part ways, even though she still cares about me and loves me as a friend. I have to admit, I was feeling like I was no longer “IN–love” with her either, but I still loved her and was…

Dear Christine, Deserve Better in Bellville

  • Posted on April 15, 2019 at 8:24 am

Dear Christine, I was wondering what to do about this girl that I gave a year and a half of my life too. I met her 1 night at a club and she had a gf at the time but we still danced and it was awesome, it was 1 of those movie moments….you know like time stood still kind of thing. we actually started dating a few months after that, to give a small background she was telling me that her and her gf were no longer together, but they were. they really did break up and we did our thing and then i left for basic training (don’t ask, mistake)we were fine during that time but then things changed, she first slept w/ her ex b/c her ex started seeing someone and she wasn’t comfortable with losing control of her ex then she slept with her ex’s best friend who is a guy, she is currently with this guy, but they don’t see each but like every 6 wks. during all this she was still talking to me like nothing was wrong. her ex and i are really good friends now and she called me to inform me…

Dear Christine, Going Crazy in Garden City

  • Posted on April 1, 2019 at 9:15 am

Dear Christine, I’m not sure if I’m gay or not, but I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years. The breakup has been horrible and I sometimes feel like I’m dying. Now, I’m really not sure about who I am and I’m not sure I ever want to date another guy! Throughout the past couple of months of the break up, I have tried turning to friends and family for support and help. Many have been there, including some I didn’t expect, like my sister. She’s very religious and we don’t usually see eye to eye on most topics. But she’s really been there for me and it’s really helped. My mom, however, suddenly informed me this past weekend that she’s totally against my “culture” (being gay) and thinks I need to get out now, and that this break up is a “good thing” because it gives me the opportunity to try being straight! I can’t believe this! The past 2 years, mom has been wonderful even hugging my boyfriend when we’d visit her, asking me about him when he wasn’t there. Mom seemed great! And BTW, she’s a very religious Christian too, so I never expected her…