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Dear Christine, Shocked in Saugatuck

  • Posted on August 21, 2017 at 8:38 am

Dear Christine, I’ve been living with my wife for 20 years and I just discovered something. She just confessed that she hasn’t seen a doctor for a physical for over 10 years! This scares me! I love her and understand from family experience that prevention saves lives. Now she is afraid to go. How can I convince her? Shocked in Saugatuck Dear Shocked, We think we know each other and all our secrets in marriage! But the truth is, there is so much we don’t know about each other! Interesting read about this here: https://www.nytimes.com/2017/08/18/style/modern-love-married-to-a-mystery-man.html? mwrsm=Facebook. I’m glad you and your wife had this discussion. Going for many years without any health care happens to a great number of people, and in my experience, more often with men than women. Most people have stable health and don’t really see the need to go to a doctor for an annual physical when they aren’t having any health concerns. And if you are lucky, you can go 10 years without needing any medical care. However, life is a pre-existing condition, and eventually, we all have something go awry, the flu, a sprained ankle, a car accident, a bursting appendix, a blocked colon,…

Dear Christine, Explaining in Ecorse

  • Posted on July 17, 2017 at 10:13 am

Dear Christine, My partner and I are a lesbian couple and very active in the LGBT community. Recently I’ve been questioning my gender identity and I’m thinking seriously of transitioning from female to male gender. I’m not sure how to explain my gender changes. I was always more of the tomboy type. I’m coming to realize that I don’t have a gender identity crisis, but I identify as gender queer, and being explicitly male or female is not really the issue for me. Explaining homosexuality to our children was a challenge. They are 6 and 10 years old and they are fine with having two moms. The whole family is very accepting of our being a lesbian couple. Our parents are confused about why I want to change, when I so confidently identified as lesbian. How should I go about explaining transgender issues to our kids, and our parents and families? I find that gender clarity is very important to my family and society in general, but it isn’t so important to me.  Explaining in Ecorse Dear Explaining, My question is: is it necessary to undergo gender transition if identifying as male or female is not a big deal for…